Hey, hey, hey, you're going way to fast... Just buy a tank- Let your wife pick it out... Then, maybe, just LOOK at stands, and if your wife likes it, buy it. One piece at a time and before you know it, she'll be hooked! Then she'll be signing in on this board asking all of these questions. I think that if you look at the WHOLE picture right up front, it can be overwelming, so if you plan to set it up, one piece at a time, before you know it you have a beautiful tank. Takes longer, but to me it's worth it!!!