OT: Wife and i Seperated

[califishdude]

I will be back once in a while. Wife and i seperated and hoping to work things out. Ill check back once in a while. What really amazed me was that she moved the whole setup (LR, Inverts, Corals, all the equipment) with help of her dads that doesnt know anything. She did a really good job, I was in jail so i couldnt get out to help. With 5 years in orison hanging over me i need to take time away from the fish scene and save my marriage. For the people that belives in christ , please keep us in your prayers. My kids really enjoyed this site looking at the differnet fishes.

 

[bonermeister]

Do your best in the interest of your children.

 

[harrysreef]

hope things work out for you.

 

[scotts]

Dude,
What to say????? Hope all turns out. I have been through a lot myself, although definitely different problems. My son was positively diagnosed with Autism, we found out that my daughter had to have a third operation and I was having problems with the new boss at work. All in the span of one week. There were many doctors appointments for both children. Usually at least 2 a week. We both had very responsible jobs and had to take time off of work. Autism SUCKS.
I was talking to a friend in the middle of it and he said that he expected to get a phone call from me at anytime saying that I was in Arizona, That I couldn't take it and had to get out.
OK here is the stupid part, bear with me. One day I realized that I was like a concrete pillar that had gone through an earthquake. I may have cracked, but I hadn't broken. Believe it or not I started to handle it better.
Another thing that got us through it was my wife and I had a rule. We could not both lose it at the same time.
So remember it is OK to crack, just do not break.
Scott

 

[phishman1]

Comment edited out due to worthlessness.

 

[banshee]

 

[justinx]

Fish Dude: I wish the best for you and your family in this time of need, and if you need a friend, you have plenty of em' here.

 

[laudluvr]

Best wishes to you and your family. And... Good luck, it never hurts to have some.

 

[cb]

Fish Dude--I hope all works out well for you and your family.We will keep you and yours in our prayers.

 

[buzz]

Don't know what happened to give you a possibility of 5 yrs, but it can't be good. I hate to see families broken apart, and I hope that somehow, yours can be strengthened to stay together. I also hope that whatever is happening with you legally strengthens you as an individual to stay away from any such activities in the future (yeah, I used to be a Cop).
Hang in there. Best advice I can give is to never forget the events that led up to this (whatever they may be), and learn from them. Do that, and don't let them happen again, and you'll be just fine.
Hang in there. I know that can't be easy right now.
Oh...and Phishman? What the H E double hockey sticks is wrong with you? That was purely and simply wrong...

 

[bambalamb]

I'm saddened to hear of your troubles. Just remember to do what's best for your kids - you will always be their dad, and they look up to you.
Best of luck to you,
Jeff

 

[clownfish2]

Just wanted to let you know that I will be praying for you and your family. Hope everything works out for the best. God bless

 

[royalshrimp]

best wishes
Raphael

 

[tangman99]

Good luck and I hope all works out for you. If you need help for anything, swallow your pride and accept it. A family is the most important thing you will ever have.

 

[jrein40806]

My son was positively diagnosed with Autism>>
Scotts,
so was my son. E-mail me at JRein40806@aol.com if you want to discuss some of the things my wife and I have found to help.I tried to find your e-mail but I couldn't. Autism does suck.We have attended talks where people have been able to fully recover their children. That at least has given us some hope.
To the original poster, life can be tough,hang in there.Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Good luck!

 

[phishman1]

You are correct, my post was on the insensitive side. I do apologize for it.
I get tired of people I guess making the wrong decisions, then the rest of us have to feel sorry and try to give them our blessings and hope they do better.
Sorry, I do it correct the first time. I guess I learned right from wrong and avoid the wrong, so do my children.
When you get to that point in the road where you have to choose the correct way or the incorrect way, you know what to do. If you choose the wrong path, don't expect me to feel badly for you. You did it !! I didn't...
It may seem harsh to everyone, but, if everyone did the right thing we wouldn't even have to feel sorry for someone like this. Its not that hard to do. We were all brought up knowing right from wrong.

 

[mistylab]

We all make mistakes phishman. You have made mistakes before too, I know. Maybe you need to get one of those bracelets, WWJD, well, for a start, we all all equal in His eyes, no matter how many mistakes we make, and your post, I believe, was a mistake, and I can only hope you didn't truly mean what you said.
Oh, and regarding what you said about everyone growing up knowing right from wrong, I guess I am not counted. I was never truly taught how to act, and sometimes I feel like such a spoiled brat for it. I never did much around the house, I was always too busy with the animals. My dad told me to "Shutup, Da**it!" a few times, I never cussed, but I did end up telling my own parents to shutup routinely, and I hardly ever listened to what they told me to do.

 

[justinx]

Phishman:
Hypothetical situation:
Your wife/child is dying from an illness and has less than 2 weeks to live. UNLESS you administer the "cure" which can be purchased for $10K from the local

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. You do not have 10K, not even close.
You are faced with a moral dilema of right and wrong. Do you:
1. Let your wife/child die because you cannot afford the medicine.
or
2. Steal the medicine from the

[hr]
and go to prison.
Allowing someone to die is considered neglect, and is wrong. Stealing is wrong, even if it is a matter of life and death. So what would you do?
Regardless of what you do, it is wrong and people are going to feel sorry for you. Either because you lost your wife/child, or because your are going to prison because you saved your wife/child. In either case, there is no "right" thing to do, and people are still going to feel sorry for you.
UNLESS THEY ARE A PERSON WHO IS IGNORANT AND HEARTLESS.

 

[fishkiller]

Phishman- Ok, we already gather that your intelligence is a little under par. Please correct me if I am wrong. You claim you have never made a mistake, is that right? You do everything right the first time huh? What is your level of education? Because the ONLY person that could never do something wrong is lacking the intelligence to know better. An example of this type of person is a YOUNG child or person who is catatonic and completely unable to make any decisions, muchless wrong decisions. You, my friend are a D(i can't really put my opinion here w/out it being deleted my the mods)!! little punk!

 

[the claw]

I think the jury just came in on phishman1. I wonder how much time you'll get for your last posts. Whats the judge (moderator) think?