Parent problem

[reefforbrains]

this thread has been been whipped like a dead horse but I want to get in my hit.
I DID grow up ward of the state. Keep crowing about how harsh Dad is and its hilarious. Being a Kid, Teen, or Adult can be rough. Thats Life, Wonderful and Cruel and sometimes at the same time. Action does not speak louder than words. Sit down and talk with them. This can go for any side of the argument.
Just my 2 centavos

 

[rad]

Originally Posted by hot883
Nice to tell your dad that and then drive away. Wow! You have my vote!!
NOT

Hot, dont bring that mess around in here. We are having a serious discussion. This is no time to be cocky and immiture just to prove a point that your superior to someone else. Please reserve that for your children when your not neglecting them to be on the internet.
Tang, you are a good father. I know this just from the couple posts of yours Ive read. You carry reason, with respect and thats your job as a man and a father. Im not trying to blame my parents for me not going to college, merely bitter that my little brothers (from a different mother mind you) get full rides to any colleges they want and barely have to work for it. I worked my ass off and didnt want anything from my parents so I got nothing. Its all on me. I still love the kids but thats besides the point. I just talked to my father prior to posting my original post in this thread. We were shooting the breeze and laughing all the while. We do have a good relationship. With that said; when I cussed out my dad that was the first time in my life I had ever felt that feeling like I finally wasnt under their controll anymore. Thats exhillarating. After 18 years its such a relief. Thats the only reason it carries any signifigance with me and the same as to why I shared. I didnt drive off as to scurry away, on the contrary I have stood toe to toe with my father on several occasions. That just so happens to be the same reason I started working out junior year (that and the ladies notice. nice!) we had a couple scuffles. We were the same height, he carried about 100 more lbs than I but that just meant I better not get pinned to the ground. Looking back I dodnt see it as child abuse even though CPS was called. Like I said its a struggle to be a man and not being allowed the privilidge because your constantly being dicked around. you can give your kids rules while maintaining respect and control, just dont over do it.

 

[reefreak29]

thats kindof funny , my dad gave everything to my sister first car,paid for schooling,paid for her wedding etc.me i had to buy my first car,paid for school and paid for my own wedding ,oh well life sucks some times,but i will say i have no credit card debt and my sis does.

 

[reefreak29]

comon rad u just asked for a mature conversation but tried to throw it in his face.Theres no reason for that

 

[rad]

I was having a mature discussion, only not with barry. I show the same respect given.

 

[babyb]

just wanted to comment on the pointless rules rad
my mother has a problem with controle and for some reason wants to break my will( yes these words have come out of her mouth multipul times, i dont just think that) every week about 5 times there is tremendise (sp?) fighting, physical and with words, over the stupudist stuff, the latest one was she wanted me to come to work, ok no big deal, but i had plans that day that i had had for a week, so today is the first time she has talked to in abut 3 days after she called me everything but a white woman,
once they bought drinks from sams taht were no suger added...so they were nasty to a 10 year old, i put a little suger in it. she came around the corner and i got beat within an inch of my life
about 2 months ago she sent me to the er with a broken wrist because i slamed the door
i have 3 brothers and 1 sister, and i got to be chosen to be the bi*** from day one its been like that
i droped a fork and i got beat with the belt buckle
preaty retarded, but just got to live with it till i can get my own place
i have vowed to my mother since about 14 years old that i will never have kids because i didnt want to have the same relationship with my kids and her and i do
the second post on here i put aswell, thats my dads latest chore list because i didnt ask to go somewhere

 

[hot883]

Originally Posted by rad
I was having a mature discussion, only not with barry. I show the same respect given.
You stated how big of a man you were when you told him to kiss it and cursed AS YOU DROVE AWAY. You are no man. I will not waste anymore time with you! Funny how you single me out when I hit home.
It is also funny how you ASSUME that I am neglecting my children by being on here when they are older than you; and would NEVER even consider speaking to me as you did your dad.
Before you open your disrespectful sewer, know to whom you are talking to.
Anyway, I am done.

 

[rad]

barry had you actually read my posts I said nothing about me being a man. On the contrary I admitted I am not an adult. I am open to others suggestions and dont consider everything I do as right or correct. One part I left out from when I was 'cussing out' my father: I was on

[hr]
. Its stupid I know, Ive only done it maybe three times ever, but it was the day (maybe more like 8 hours to be exact as I was out late) after I had been drinking etc and I was at the car title bureau down town transferring my car title to my name when I encountered my father because he had to come sign some documents. Under normal circumstances I do not/have not ever said anything to my father even nearly along those lines. I do have respect for him. Im sure you dont remember the exact place and time you were when you realized your parents dont know the answer to everything. I do. This was just another one of those things that happen in life to you in your adolescence where you come to a realization, wether your under the influence or not. Its great not to be under someones thumb. Thats the only point I was trying to make. Not that I was an all powerful man. But at the same time it is a power struggle. It was wrong of me to assume the ages of your children, only this home you speak of that you supposively struck is nowhere to be found. I was speaking on behalf of the kids around here letting them know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. You want to mock me and expect me to respect you for it (I assume because your a mod). To that I say I am glad your children are older, times are different now pops. Im not looking to start a flame war or to be at each others throats about any thing. I just want you to understand that mocking a sensitive subject like that (and yes I did say sensitive subject, I made that clear in one of my earlier posts) is like telling a black person that slavery never exsisted and then following that up with an 'n-bomb.' But enough about me, lets talk fish. :happyfish

 

[triga22]

Wow. I didnt know that my post was going to turn into a huge argument. I talked with my parents and we are doing better. We are going to six flags as a family sunday- to spend family time. You can close this thread whenever you would like. I didnt mean to start a fight. Sorry everyone.

 

[reefforbrains]

Originally Posted by rad
....... is like telling a black person that slavery never exsisted and then following that up with an 'n-bomb.'
:notsure:
wow things went south QUICK didnt they............
who cares about this thread, its now only a matter of minutes till it gets locked. lol, You an Dad are good again, congrats and enjoy yourselves this weekend. Thats the most important part.

 

[triga22]

Thanks Reef for brains. We will enjoy it. We got season passes!!! If you dont know im in ACE American Coaster Enthusiest. I rode the worlds tallest and fastes coaster.

 

[rad]

My bad triga22, guilty of highjacking as charged. I think were all done arguing. Only one last note; BabyB, talk to someone more than just on the internet. Theres no reason for that. Dont think that you can handle it just because you talk your self in to thinking you can. Never be afraid to ask others for help. Thats what they're there for.

 

[michaeltx]

yep you are right from the down hill slide this thread took to tigra asking for it to be locked it is now going to be locked.
I would just like to add that Tigra I really hope that everything works out for you and your family and always remember the relationship that you and your family will begin to change as you get older just bare with the bad stuff and it will be over soon.
Have fun in six flags!!!!!!!!!!!
Mike

 

[beth]

Babyb, no child should be abused and you don't have to put up with it until you can leave. You need help, and it looks like your mom needs help too. I'd suggest that you talk to your school counselor about the situation Monday morning. Good luck!