jenny-
there are never any "good words" for a time like this. i am very sorry for your loss. all of us on the board "knew" tobin, and we all have a connection to him, even if it was electronically at first, and now spiritually. they say that you can tell how a man lived his life, not by the things he did, but by the people he had affected. tobin was well loved by the 1000's on this site alone.........he will be missed.
you and your family are in my prayers and thoughts.
jeff