What's up y'all??? My story...

crimzy

crimzy

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Just wanted to drop in and say hello... a LOT has happened recently. Although this story is extremely personal, I don't know you people so I really don't give a sh$% if you judge me. And this may be slightly therapeutic.
At the end of May, wifey and I separated... nothing crazy, just having some problems and needed some time to decide which direction our marriage would go in. I have, and will always love my wife, but I didn't think she was a very GOOD wife and partner. I felt huge guilt about the prospect of the kids being raised by divorced parents. I was so confused about what to do that I asked g-d for guidance to help me make a decision, (and I'm not even religious). Well... I'm not sure if it was g-d answer or not but this past Tuesday, I discovered that wifey had been having an affair, (no, not with Miamihtlvr
).
To be continued...
 
crimzy

crimzy

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When I discovered the evidence and confronted my wife, she came over at about 2:00am to try to work it out with me. We argued, cried, yelled and carried on until about 6:30am. I went to sleep from about 7am til 9am... then got up and drafted my complaint for divorce, headed to the courthouse and filed it.
Just let me tell you all to please never cheat on someone you love. You have no idea how painful something like that is. If you think you can imagine how it feels, multiply that feeling by 1000 and that may be close. If you want something else, have some respect for your partner, break it off and move on.
To be continued...
 
meowzer

meowzer

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Originally Posted by renogaw
http:///forum/post/3062647
you know, i thought something was weird when you had that cleaning issue...
For me it was all the girls night outs..
Hope the kids are ok...they adjust better than you think....
 
al mc

al mc

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Crimzy...Sorry, went through the alomost exact scenario about 20 years ago. Thankfully there were no children involved. My very simple advice...it will get much better, but there will be two steps forward then one back...hang in buddy.....
 
crimzy

crimzy

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Since the other day, life has been a roller coaster of ups and downs... we've gone through anger, sadness, love, forgiveness... and the emotions change by the hour. I've lost about 10 lbs in 4 days and haven't slept more than 2-3 hours per night.
However we are trying to have a friendship and make our arrangements amicably for the kids. I think wifey and I both agree that we still love each other very much, but can't take back what's been done. I know we'd both like to and we now just have to move on.
However things are not all bad... as some of you may know, I am taking the Florida Bar Exam in July because we were planning to move there. Well I'm still taking the bar, and my firm is now considering opening a satellite office in Florida that I could run from Michigan, but I would have to go there for a couple days per month. Also, everyone around here found out what was going on with me, (I posted it on facebook, he he he). Now every female around here is getting in line to help me pick up the pieces... not that I'm going to do that or anything.

To be continued...
 
meowzer

meowzer

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Now every female around here is getting in line to help me pick up the pieces... not that I'm going to do that or anything
...LOL...be careful.....
 
salt life

salt life

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Originally Posted by crimzy
http:///forum/post/3062659
Anyway, in case anyone is wondering, this is what has been up with me. Thanks for reading.
dude that is horrible to hear, I can't relate so I don't want to say too much about that but keep your head up.
how is your tank doing though? atleast you still have that badboy to come home to.
 
meowzer

meowzer

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Originally Posted by crimzy
http:///forum/post/3062659
Anyway, in case anyone is wondering, this is what has been up with me. Thanks for reading.
Anyway Crimz...from someone who has also been down that road....you may be able to forgive eventually....BUT it is the forgetting that never goes away...the piece of trust you never get back...the constant wondering....Just try not to carry it with you in your future relationships...not everyone will do something like that...
 
crimzy

crimzy

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Originally Posted by meowzer
http:///forum/post/3062664
Anyway Crimz...from someone who has also been down that road....you may be able to forgive eventually....BUT it is the forgetting that never goes away...the piece of trust you never get back...the constant wondering....Just try not to carry it with you in your future relationships...not everyone will do something like that...
Future relationships??? What do I need that for? I already have my beautiful kids. My plan right now is to date random 25 year olds for the rest of my life.
 
meowzer

meowzer

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Originally Posted by crimzy
http:///forum/post/3062665
Future relationships??? What do I need that for? I already have my beautiful kids. My plan right now is to date random 25 year olds for the rest of my life.

I said the same thing...I had 4 kids ages ...3, 4,7 and 11 at that time...who needed a partner...welllll it just happens sometimes
 
alix2.0

alix2.0

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sorry to hear! someone i work with just found out that her husbands been cheating on her, its awful. hope it works out well for both you and your children.
 
mantisman51

mantisman51

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Sorry to hear about it Crimz. I wish you the best and pray for your children. Their foundation is being destroyed, but sounds like you are making the best of it.
 
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