Originally Posted by
spanko
http:///forum/post/3062848
Sorry Crimz. Pretty close by if you ever want to have an adult libation. I am a pretty good listener.
Thanks man... I may take you up on that sometime.
Originally Posted by ruaround
http:///forum/post/3062817
this is no surprise man...
youve been puttin up with this crap for long time J... its about time you did something about it bro...
See this is what freaking gets to me... nobody seems surprised because you all know that my wife went out with friends and went on vacation with the girls.
Does this mean that you should not trust your significant other to go out and have fun with their friends?
Is there no room for trust left in relationships?
Does a good relationship have to mean that we dictate what the other is "allowed" to do?
I never wanted to have to tell anyone what to do. I figured I have nothing to worry about because I was a good husband and father. I have never cheated on her, don't do drugs, don't gamble, don't put myself in compromising situations, don't go to strip bars, don't look at p-orn... just work to provide for my family, and try to be good to my wife and kids. The only person I could truly control is myself. I have been approached by lots of women but I learned the "don't be a cheater" lesson well before I got married. I just figured that getting married and having kids meant that we were on the same page... that we could both take comfort in the fact that no worthless fling was going to be worth risking the loss of the family.
Anyway, as an update, wifey came over to pick up the kids and we talked for a while... put together a preliminary idea about dividing finances, support, custody arrangements, etc. It looks like we are going to be able to do this quickly and amicably, (which I hope), unless she blindsides me by trying to fight this out with me. It doesn't look like it right now but she has surprised me before.
