stdreb27
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Originally Posted by T316
http:///forum/post/3138555
No doubt on the kid statistic...100% agree. But personally, if it were me, it wouldn't matter if it was just a one time thing...It's Over!
Not sure if I mentioned this little tid bit before, or that it really makes a difference in the conversation here, but these two couples were "best friends". He with him, and her with the guy's wife. Just adds insult to injury, but just thought I would throw that out. In talking with him today, I picked up on the fact that he was repeatedly blaming himself, for letting this happen. He showed no disrepect or ill will towards his wife, just really down on himself for allowing this to happen. No matter what I tried to re-direct the cause to, he remained focused on getting his wife back and how he must of some way overlooked this coming.
I think this is one of those things you don't know what you'll do till it happens. Emotionally for me, I doubt I could ever return, however, logically, and family wise, I could potentially see the logic in not divorcing. If he is doing it for the kids, it is a very selfless thing to do.
Besides it is the way males are wired. We may hate each other, but once we beat the $#%$ out of each other, and he got arrested for it, we usually feel much better.
http:///forum/post/3138555
No doubt on the kid statistic...100% agree. But personally, if it were me, it wouldn't matter if it was just a one time thing...It's Over!
Not sure if I mentioned this little tid bit before, or that it really makes a difference in the conversation here, but these two couples were "best friends". He with him, and her with the guy's wife. Just adds insult to injury, but just thought I would throw that out. In talking with him today, I picked up on the fact that he was repeatedly blaming himself, for letting this happen. He showed no disrepect or ill will towards his wife, just really down on himself for allowing this to happen. No matter what I tried to re-direct the cause to, he remained focused on getting his wife back and how he must of some way overlooked this coming.
I think this is one of those things you don't know what you'll do till it happens. Emotionally for me, I doubt I could ever return, however, logically, and family wise, I could potentially see the logic in not divorcing. If he is doing it for the kids, it is a very selfless thing to do.
Besides it is the way males are wired. We may hate each other, but once we beat the $#%$ out of each other, and he got arrested for it, we usually feel much better.
