:happyfish Hi, I LOVE xenia. I have most kinds. Xenia can be tricky, but I've found dumping almost a capful of iodine on the clump. They love to get live dt a lot, and really not to high of lights, and moderate water movement. If all else fails, and you can't get it to live, try another MUCH hardier variety called aptheria? I can never remember how to pronounce that correctly. It is the matting kind. It is way hardier. It is gorgeous pink and has really long arms and very large mouth parts. It doesn't pulse, but sometimes it's been know to.Pom Pom is second hardiest. Unfortunately, you got the hardest. Sometimes you just can't keep that kind alive. Good luck, and hopefully I was of some help.