Originally Posted by
scottnlisa
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I am assuming that this is not your first time wathching her. Correct? I guess there is 2 different styles of raising your granddaughter? If or when you have punished her in the past, did you daughter agree or disagree with you? What your daighter say if you told her that you didn't want her to drink Venom anymore. What would she say? Would she agree or disagree? If she disagrees then it is not your right to take that drink away from your granddaughter unless it is causing medical problems. If you don't like what she does, then don't watch her. It is not your job to bestow values or morals on your granddaughter. That is a parents job.
I have raised this girl, she is my life..I try to not let the other kids know it, but she has my heart. It isn't that I can't take what she does, it that I love her so much it kills me to see her act so ugly.
Everyone else: Thanks guys, this is exactly what I needed to get everything off my chest…
A little back ground:
My daughter is sick and has been sick for some years. She has become addicted to legal drugs, so sometimes she really is sick when she heads to the hospital and sometimes not. This time around she is really sick.
I have practically raised her children, my daughter has lived with me each time she became pregnant..5 children later I refused to let her come home with the last pregnancy. Sadly I didn’t understand enabling until then. She was married, her nor her husband worked. I was concerned about the children and always took her in.
Those kids adore me, and I adore them and we are very, very close. I hardly know my sons children, he lives far away and caters to his wife’s family, which is fine. That is perfectly normal and his children love me as a grandmother. They are not as attached to me as my daughters kids are. For them I have always been a big part of their life right in the house with them
I got finally got smart and I made my daughter step up to the plate, things are much better. However my daughter is extremely lenient toward Alyssa her oldest and my first grandchild. She lets this kid get away with so much, she grounds her but lets her off just hours later. She threatens to take away a privilege, then gives it back after an apology. I was always the kind that once I set a rule it’s concrete..grounded means grounded for the duration. I make my decision and stick to it. Alyssa knows this but she also knows I am the Nana, the nice sweet one. I’m sure she thinks I am wrapped around her finger like her Mom.
Now for scene two, this just happened.
Alyssa apologized an hour ago for the jerk remark. I accepted her apology and said nothing else. She just came into my room as I wrote this post and asked for the computer, I told her no, the computer was off limits for the day. She had a little tantrum insisting she will use her phone and run up a bill…that I had no say so since Mom gave her the phone. I told I can take the phone, but decided that I would call mom first. My daughter told me Alyssa wouldn’t run up the bill because she would lose the phone, that all was well, to not bother taking it away. So I let it go and let her talk to her mother fo a bit.
After the call from Mom, Alyssa asked again for the computer…again I said no and now the computer would not be used tomorrow either…She had a fit and said she wants to go home. She would call her dad, but dad has the two boys and no car, so she said she would call a cab…I shook my head at her at her and said it was a two hour drive, no cab will take her. She said she would call Aunt Sonya (my sister) I reminded her that she went to down south for the week.
So Alyssa stomped out of the room and went to the bathroom to scream…LOL..in the middle of her fit she dropped her phone in the toilet. I didn’t laugh in her face, but I gotta tell you, I believe there is a God and he knew she needed that phone taken away..
