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Flower http:///t/393879/is-it-natural-for-people-to-spend-their-lives-committed-to-just-one-partner/20#post_3505538
Quick to judge, are you $%*$#ing kidding me????? Biological survival thing????? I'm going with them being a terrible person theory.
Sorry, and I know you love your parents...but cheating is WRONG!!! It does indeed make them less a person. What did you learn from your cheating parents....well for starters you seem to think it's perfectly normal. You don't condone it??? Well it makes me want to puke.
The cheaters in this world have the morals of a pig, AKA...if it feels good it must be right. What kind of disgusting pig needs to cheat? Any normal adult intelligent person has enough sense to keep their cloths on, and not allow
their sexual hunger to destroy their entire family. Anyone who puts the desire for sex above their children, and another person they swore to be faithful to, is the lowest pond scum of human trash. There is no excuse for it...period. They are right up there with the pedophiles, they can't control their sexual urges either, what they want and hunger for is all that matters to them...to hell with who it hurts and damages for a lifetime.
I have never cheated, and I have never been cheated on, my attitude about such behavior was ingrained since childhood....along with knowing you are supposed to knock before entering somebodies house, and ask if you want something and not just grab it like a caveman out of somebodies hand. It's a matter of simple respect for another person.
If you don't want to be in a marriage anymore, get a divorce, and if you think you really have a free right to cheat because it must be normal, with the attitude that everyone does it...do everyone a favor and not get married in the first place. Why destroy everyone in your family because you can't control your sexual desires..
When we were dating...my husband asked me once what I would do if he ever cheated...I did a dance out of the room...foot over foot sideways until I left the room singing Do da do da...stuck my head back into the doorway to face him and asked if he had any questions...he said no, he understood loud and clear. I would be gone, and there wouldn't be any claims of "it was mistake" our relationship would be over period. I also understand how some idiots get their fool heads shot off, that kind of deep betrayal gets people killed.
I would never blame the other person, I would blame the person who promised to love me until death do us part. If you can't hold on to the oath, at least have enough respect, to be up front and get a divorce or break up like an adult. The wrost lowest forms of breaking up such as a Dear John letter, text, or phone message shows more respect to a person than cheating on them.
OK, forgive me but I have to take this to a very philosophical and abstract level...
First, I believe that it is a fallacy to believe that someone is inherently superior or inferior / better or worse / more or less moral. To believe that takes as a given that there is an inherent right and wrong, an inherent good and evil and, logic would dictate a g-d and the devil. Believing in these things can provide significant comfort to people because it provides each an opportunity to feel superior, more moral, closer to g-d or whatever than the other person and, thus we feel good about ourselves and safe.
If you do look at us as simply another species in the animal kingdom, then our choices and differences as people are no different than the differences in personalities between two dogs or fish. I don't cheat but I'm not better than the person who does, I've simply made different choices. My ex wife (and her mom BTW), cheated on husbands, and in doing so found the loves of their lives and built lives with the "affair" (happily I assume).
So many people have cheated and/or made other mistakes in their lives, even those righteous ones who claim "I have never cheated". Whether their magnanimous claim is true or not doesn't matter because it doesn't make someone better or worse than the next guy. One person may cheat, the next may be abusive, the next may cheat on taxes, not provide for their children, gamble, lie about their ages, whatever. Let the one without sins cast aspertions (sp?).
Even if you are a religious person, and believe in g-d, then you probably agree that all people sin. And virtually every religion provides some mechanism for forgiveness. I don't believe that we are to judge one another, especially for something so personal. What if a person cheats because they were abused? What if they cheat because their self-image became so low that the new person was an outlet to feel beautiful or desired again? I don't really know the ins and outs but I know that I have made LOTS of mistakes in my life. Lots of mistakes and probably still counting, lol. JMO...
