Open apology.....

[flower]

Folks, my mother is in the hospital, day #3.... It’s her heart. I'm on the laptop and apparently I am more stressed than I realized. So I figure I must be snippy because I have been called down from 3 people today alone..If I have insulted anyone else, I sincerely apologize.
This site is a life line and I know it's a community of very caring people, I don't want any new folks to be afraid to get their heads bit off for posting a question or asking for help.
I was not going to complain and whine about my problems, but I seem to be making people angry and I don’t want everyone to think I’m some evil person with a superior attitude. You all deserve better and an explanation. I plan to be extra cautious on what I post in the future and apologizing for how I have come off these last few days.
If I have always been a jerk, well... I have no excuse..I must be a jerk...but nobody said anything until now, so I didn't know.

 

[teresaq]

Sorry to hear about your mom. Hope she feels better soon.
T

 

[meowzer]

Flower...so sorry to hear about your Mom.....My prayers are with you and her.....let us know how things go

 

[slice]

Sorry to hear, best wishes to both of you.

 

[jerth6932]

I'm sorry to hear about your mom. I have been in thoes shoes for 2 years now with my wife in and out of the hospital. I know how ones frustration can project on others with out having that intention there. Its already hard to protray feelings with the written word, so when one is experincing anamosity.... it can becme bad.

 

[btldreef]

Flower, posts like these are one of the reasons I admire and have much respect for you. You are such a stand up, honest person. We all have our moments, but few of us admit to them.
I hope your mother gets well quickly, you both will be in my prayers.

 

[1guydude]

np here flower. Sry to hear this, i hope things go okay! U be strong and btw ur not a jerk! This i know. I have met jerks on here and they usually dont last....unlike u
~devin

 

[beth]

Sorry about your mom, Flower. Hopefully, she will be her ole self again. Yea, some of the comments today have been a tad on the tart side. :laughing:

 

[flower]

Thank you everyone for understanding. I honestly didn't realize how sharp I was being. Thank you for the prayers....I just got home. have some errends to run talk at you later!

 

[gemmy]

Flower, I am sorry about your mother. I hope she heals quickly and both of you are in my prayers.

 

[bang guy]

Sending good karma to Flower's mom.

 

[flower]

Thanks everyone. Her heart attack was mild, but the rhythm is off. According to the nurse it still is. She is home tonight, they let her leave late in the day. I was kind of suprised..I went home to bring her slippers to her and she called saying she was released so I went and got her. She is tired easy but seems pretty good. I didn't see her doctor to talk to her. She has a bunch of new medicine. I wish I could have seen her doctor before she sent her home. I don't even know if her heart rhythm is back to normal or what, but....LOL... keep up the good Karma, prayers and well wishes because she is home already and on the mend.
I have been sitting here crying as I watched the news. The people of Joplin..Oh my God those poor people, one poor guy said he was right next to his wife..he heard her scream and now he can't find her anywhere. Then they announced Oklahoma was hit and I got on line to check on Meowzer and anybody else who is from that area. I guess everyone is alright. My problems and worries are so small.

 

[meowzer]

Glad to hear your mom is home.....
these tornado's are TERRIBLE...the devastation and loss of life, and pets....YES I SAID IT....I have been watching the facebook page on animal rescue...people post the pets they have lost...others post the ones they find.......heartbreaking and celebratory all at the same time......remember...pets are like children....they depend on us

 

[al&burke]

My thoughts a prayers go out to everyone that got hit by those terrible tornados. Flower prayers for your Mom as well, I am sure everything will be fine. I find sometimes that typing and speaking are two completely different things, someone may be coming over strong in a email but when you talk to them it is the complete opposite. For those of us that know you - we know you mean well. Don't sweat it Flower you have a lot on your plate right now.

 

[flower]

Odd they would release someone so late in the day, I always thought after a certain time to just wait until the morning. They push you out so fast now. When I had my heart attack I was in the hospital for 3 months. She was only in there 3 days and I really don't think she is strong enough to be out yet but that's me...over protective. Stll I'm glad she's home, this house is so empty without her.

 

[mproctor4]

Unfortunately they release very early because they have to fight the insurance co, esp. Medicare. Where I work we release in the evening all the time. Often more than one doctor is seeing the person and they don't round until after their office closes. Also the charge for another day is at midnight. If it gets late enough and the patient doesn't want to go, usually they will let them stay. But most people want to leave no matter what time it is. I've seen them stay until 11:59pm--they stay as long as they can without getting charged another day. I work at a 400+ bed hospital and it amazes me how many people we have. The ER is constantly full and people waiting in the hallway. People live longer now and are so sick. They have to move them out to make room for the next group. It is scary and will only get worse.
It is too bad the nurses couldn't have told you what her rhythm is, that is not a big deal for them. Many people have an irregular rhythmn and as long as their medication is adjusted correctly do very well. Her new normal may be abnormal. Hopefully she will have a MD visit soon so you can talk to the doctor yourself. You both need to take it easy. Often it is harder on the care giver than the patient.

 

[reefraff]

A friend had 2 shunts placed in his heart I believe Thursday. He was out on patrol and felt light headed. He stopped by and had a ambulance check him out and they found very low blood pressure and took him to the hospital where they discovered the artery issues. They released him from the hospital on Friday and he returned to duty Monday. My father in law had triple bypass about 25 years ago. Last year when he was 80 he had to have 3 more shunts placed. They released him the next day. I dunno if they just understand the heart a lot better than they used to or they just have the procedure down better but they don't keep people in for heart conditions like they used to. In fact a friend's GF had some nerves in her heart killed to solve an irregular heartbeat issue. IT WAS OUTPATIENT SURGERY. That's amazing to me.

 

[flower]

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Originally Posted by mproctor4 http:///forum/thread/385851/open-apology#post_3386114
Unfortunately they release very early because they have to fight the insurance co, esp. Medicare. Where I work we release in the evening all the time. Often more than one doctor is seeing the person and they don't round until after their office closes. Also the charge for another day is at midnight. If it gets late enough and the patient doesn't want to go, usually they will let them stay. But most people want to leave no matter what time it is. I've seen them stay until 11:59pm--they stay as long as they can without getting charged another day. I work at a 400+ bed hospital and it amazes me how many people we have. The ER is constantly full and people waiting in the hallway. People live longer now and are so sick. They have to move them out to make room for the next group. It is scary and will only get worse.
It is too bad the nurses couldn't have told you what her rhythm is, that is not a big deal for them. Many people have an irregular rhythmn and as long as their medication is adjusted correctly do very well. Her new normal may be abnormal. Hopefully she will have a MD visit soon so you can talk to the doctor yourself. You both need to take it easy. Often it is harder on the care giver than the patient.
Oh that explains so much. I thought her rhythm had to be right before they released her. My mom is funny and young at heart and very smart. Thinking of her as old and needing me just rings hollow. I know with age things can't get back to young again...but I sure would like to see her make it to 120 years..LOL
I have never been angry or fought with my mother, not even as a girl growing up, not even once. She was easy going when we were kids and we were spoiled. My dad and me were at odds often but never my mom.

 

[mproctor4]

Hopefully her rhythmn is normal. But depending on what part of the heart was damaged during her heart attack, she may not have a "normal" rhythmn again. The heart beats with electrical stimulation and sometimes the electrical path is interupted. It is possible that first she had the irregular rhythmn (for whatever reason--sometimes they never know) and that caused her to have a heart attack, more likely it was a blockage. Sometimes people will go in and out of the irregular rhythm, they keep them on long term blood thinners to help prevent strokes. Some people don't know they have a heart problem or an irregular rhythmn until they have a stroke, then they go looking for the cause. Thankfully that wasn't your moms case. Let her be as independant as possible, it can be very hard when you want to take care of someone but it is good physically and emotionally to do as much for herself as she can (within reason of coarse). Plus if you have a heart condition, you need to take care of yourself.
My mom and I are the same way, I feel very blessed for that. I can't remember being upset with my mom since I was a teenager and then it was silly stuff. My mom and grandma were the same way until grandma got dementia. It has been very hard on their relationship, so sad. Now grandma is in a nursing home, I know this sounds bad, but they get along so much better because someone else is "in charge". Nobody likes their kids to boss them around, she took it better from me than my mom. Hopefully neither one of us will have to experience that! My dad and I are close but still butt heads from time to time--gotta love him though, we are too much alike.
Speaking of sick people..I'm off to work. Glad to hear your mom is on the mend! Have a great day.

 

[flower]

I'm really surprised how much better I feel just writing everything down and talking here with all of you. This site sure is a wonderful placeT
My moms heart has the lower chamber out of sync with the upper chambers from what I understood from the doctor. She had a mild stroke a few years back and has been on blood thinners. For weeks she kept saying she felt like she was short of breath when she went to bed. I asked each time if she wanted me to take her in but she said no. She went to her doctor and he ordered a stress test just days before this episode, and they found nothing wrong with her.
I was thinking sleep apnea, well she started feeling week and short of breath while she was up and awake watching TV, so I took her to the ER acute center and as I watched the monitor the rhythm was off...when the doctor came in, he said it was off without my saying anything. He had her rushed to a hospital by ambulance.
I had a massive heart attack when I was 22 years old and my baby was 3 months, he is in his 30s now. I was given blood clotting meds when my son was born and it caused the heart attack. The entire left side of my heart was damaged, since then I live by doing a little and sitting a little for all these years because I tire easy. Which leads to my weight problem, which led to my knee problems... I am not allowed to do any cardio exercise, just walking and strength. I am not on any meds except baby aspirin for my heart and have no problems except the tiredness, I do keep regular aspirin on hand just in case (the nitro got so old), I'm supposed to take the aspirin and head for the hospital if a heart problem should accure. The cardiologist said my rhythm was perfect and constant with a small extra beat. He told me an off rhythm is what kills people...so you can imagine how worried I was to find out my mother's heart is off rhythm...I thought it was a death sentence.
I agree that modern medicine is much better than 30 years ago, but I also think they push folks out way too fast because of insurance.
At any rate all is well for the now, and that's all we have...the future isn't promised to us, and the past is already gone. Having a bad heart looming over your head helps you see life as clear as day and to make every minute of life a good one if at all possible. Like my motto says...Life is good.