chaoticdamsel
Member
I don't think the point here is to dissuade experienced members from pointing out to new hobbiests what they are doing wrong. People only learn from their mistakes if they know they have made mistakes in the first place. However, that criticism and correction has to be done in a polite and constructive way, otherwise people get defensive and stop listening.
When you've been in the hobby for a long time, I think it's easy to take the 'basic' knowledge for granted. To an experienced saltwater enthusiast, not cycling with damsels, not keeping tangs in a 30 gallon and not putting anemones in a brand new tank is just common place, common sense knowledge. So they want to lash out and smack someone upside the back of the head when they try to do something that seems completely ridiculous to them.
There are some newcomers that just don't want to listen, that's true, but I think most have a genuine desire to learn and do things right. They will, however, make mistakes along the way... just like everyone does when they first get into the hobby.
So in short, just take a deep breath, try to remember what it was like to be a newbie and be supportive. People respond better to being guided than they do to being shoved.
When you've been in the hobby for a long time, I think it's easy to take the 'basic' knowledge for granted. To an experienced saltwater enthusiast, not cycling with damsels, not keeping tangs in a 30 gallon and not putting anemones in a brand new tank is just common place, common sense knowledge. So they want to lash out and smack someone upside the back of the head when they try to do something that seems completely ridiculous to them.
There are some newcomers that just don't want to listen, that's true, but I think most have a genuine desire to learn and do things right. They will, however, make mistakes along the way... just like everyone does when they first get into the hobby.
So in short, just take a deep breath, try to remember what it was like to be a newbie and be supportive. People respond better to being guided than they do to being shoved.