What would you do???

meowzer

meowzer

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OK....I'm driving home from work and on the side of the road is a woman and man "arguing" it looks like he may be grabbing at her....hard to tell
I continue down the road..and stop....thinking....what if she is in trouble.....but what if he is a maniac and I get involved and risk my own safety....how can I just drive away though w/o knowing...could I live with myself being one of those people that did nothing

SOOOOO I turn around and drive by them again.....looks like he was walking off...ok....so I turn around to head home..and this time he is back at her....SOOOOO I turn around again. This time I am on the same side of the road as her, and he is a little bit away....I roll down the window and ask if she is ok....she says no.....I told her to get in the car....she didn't at first saying her truck was just down the street.....maybe 1/2 block....I told her get in and I will take her to it...she does....she tells me she is pregnant and he is being violent towards her.....I took her to her truck.....asked her if she would be ok and if she had a place to go...she said she was gonna go to her grandmothers. I waited for her to get in, start the truck asnd drive off
OK
SO.....she pulls out...and drives the truck the SAME direction the guy is.....he jumps out in front of the truck......I was done
All I could do was go home......I tried
 
gemmy

gemmy

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Ummmm....I dunno what I would have done. I probably would have pulled over (a little bit ahead of them where I could see them in my mirrors but had some distance) and called 911. You hear too many times where these arguments are just decoys to get someone to pull over and then they carjack the unsuspecting victim (might have something to do with the fact I was the victim of an attempted carjacking)
 
meowzer

meowzer

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YES Krista.....that is why I was hesitant....I have been a victim before.....BUT I don't want that to define my life....I live my life looking over my shoulder to an extent....being distrustful of many...compared to none..live behind locked doors and alarms.....where I never locked anything before.....this is a different world we live in :(
I will tell you that I now have the police dept and sheriff dept in my cell faves.....so if there is a next time I only have to press 2 buttons.......
 
flower

flower

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I would have done what Gemmy suggested, in cases of domestic violence..99.9% of the time the woman is stupid and returns to the man and refuses to press charges to boot...you become the bad guy. I too would have driven enough up to see what was going on, take the plate number as I called 911, and if the girl ran or called out for help I would have offered her to get in quick...and I wouldn't stop till I got to a police station.
You did good Lois, and you tried, but you can't cure stupid. If she really was afriad of the guy she would have run his butt over and kept going when jumped in front of the car.
 
meowzer

meowzer

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LOL...the police around there suck.....one time I called about a guy driving drunk with little kids in the back of a p/u truck and they said I called the wrong station....SOOOO....they couldn't help me get the info to the right people
....they are LAZY
 
reefraff

reefraff

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Originally Posted by Flower http:///forum/thread/386734/what-would-you-do#post_3398494
I would have done what Gemmy suggested, in cases of domestic violence..99.9% of the time the woman is stupid and returns to the man and refuses to press charges to boot...you become the bad guy. I too would have driven enough up to see what was going on, take the plate number as I called 911, and if the girl ran or called out for help I would have offered her to get in quick...and I wouldn't stop till I got to a police station.
You did good Lois, and you tried, but you can't cure stupid. If she really was afriad of the guy she would have run his butt over and kept going when jumped in front of the car.
99.9% of domestic violence isn't man on woman....... Just sayin :)
I would have called the cops. For all you know they could have been arguing over a drug deal gone bad, not something you want to get in the middle of.
 
meowzer

meowzer

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Very true reef.....one reason I waited till he was away from her.....Like I said....the P.D...(BOTH) are now on my quick dial lists.....if there is a next time...I will be calling as I watch
 
flower

flower

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Quote:
Originally Posted by reefraff http:///forum/thread/386734/what-would-you-do#post_3398507
99.9% of domestic violence isn't man on woman....... Just sayin :)
I would have called the cops. For all you know they could have been arguing over a drug deal gone bad, not something you want to get in the middle of.
My stupid sister, whom I love, married my husbands brother, whom I also love...They were drinkers and got into it bad one night...we sat in the emergency room as the doctors stitched up my sisters face. Rick kept saying she hit him first, and she hit him almost 20 times before he hit her...once.
After listening to him for an hour I asked him to show me a bruise or even a sore spot, he had none...women have no business hitting a man, adults should behave better, nor is that my point. But when a woman hits a man with all her might with her fist, he walks away unharmed, when a man hits a woman that way, she gets her jaw broken and stitches in her face. They were both at fault but my sister carries the battle scars.
The 99.9% is how many times a stupid person will return to an abusive situation. I have watched these people, if they leave, it isn't long before they actually find another abuser. SOMETIMES they actually escape and stay clear of such crazies, they are not the norm, but the exceptions.
On your second point you are absolutly right, always call the police...It's an evil world out there. But if someone looks like they need help...how can you not try? Lois asked the woman if she was okay, and she said no. I would have tried to help too...but I agree...it was not the safest thing to do.
 
monsinour

monsinour

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I would have kept on driving. Its not members of the gene pool that should have been saved. Its too bad they already reproduced.
 
flower

flower

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Originally Posted by Monsinour http:///forum/thread/386734/what-would-you-do#post_3398556
I would have kept on driving. Its not members of the gene pool that should have been saved. Its too bad they already reproduced.
Ouch...You know until Meowzer stopped she had no idea what was going on... She could have just keep driving and assumed they were just a couple of knuckle heads.... but what if that girl was actually a victim of some killer that she could have saved?
I worked night shift for many years. I got off work at 4:00am and had an hour and twenty minute drive home to Wisconsin. One night as I got on the highway a fellow followed behind my car with the brights on. All I could do was about 5 miles an hour, my eyes were watering and I couldn't see a thing. He had a truck and I had a little Geo. I turned all my mirrors away but the lights were so bright shinning inside my car....I refused to stop and just kept crawling along..this was long before cell phones. He followed me off the highway, he would not change lanes but stayed right behind me, I believe he was trying to force me to stop and no way was I going to. He finally gave up in Elkhorn, I lived in Whitewater.. There was not one car to be seen at that hour, and no police around.
Women are attacked on the road all the time and never heard from again, and in this day and age the killers don't care if it is daylight because they know 99% of the people will just drive on by. I hope if my daughter or granddaughters are on the side of the road with some man obviously fighting, that someone will stop and ask if they are okay. It was a dangerous thing, and Meowzer could have been in danger, but when good people do nothing, the evil will always win.
Sometimes if a car stops the bad guy knows he has been noticed, he runs away to find an easier target.....So even if you don't do anything but sit there in your locked car and call police you did a good thing.
 
stdreb27

stdreb27

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Call the cops, and keep your distance, car jacking, gun's coming out, there are just too many ways things could go bad quick.
Once we had something like that happen in a store I was working in. This guy was in a mood, I told him something he didn't like, basically moved him out the door semi forcibly, he then tossed the cell phone at his wife, for trying to calm him down. Before I could really do anything, she kicked his butt. So I didn't do anything. Let the moron take a beating.
 
al&burke

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Oh Just for the record
Meowzer's Thread "What would you do???" 3 questions marks
Gemmy's Thread "What would you do??" 2 question marks
LOL
But not funny topics
 
S

siptang

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sigh... on a pregnant woman? It makes me so angry.. I'm sorry... these days anything relating to child, infants even fetus gets to me....
 
beth

beth

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Carjacking threat would have kept me from personally responding, but I would have called the police.
 
darthtang aw

darthtang aw

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I would have kept on driving. Its not members of the gene pool that should have been saved. Its too bad they already reproduced.
And you have the gall to be surprised I am married?
Good to know your the type to allow a woman get beat. How shallow is your gene pool.
I have pulled over for situations such as this. Usually you can tell how much balls the guy really has based off his body language and so on. Call the cops, watch, and confront if it starts to get too out of hand.
Darth (new a guy get beat by a lady and never had a scratch or bruise. Died from a brain hemorage) Tang
 
reefraff

reefraff

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Quote:
Originally Posted by Flower http:///forum/thread/386734/what-would-you-do#post_3398517
My stupid sister, whom I love, married my husbands brother, whom I also love...They were drinkers and got into it bad one night...we sat in the emergency room as the doctors stitched up my sisters face. Rick kept saying she hit him first, and she hit him almost 20 times before he hit her...once.
After listening to him for an hour I asked him to show me a bruise or even a sore spot, he had none...women have no business hitting a man, adults should behave better, nor is that my point. But when a woman hits a man with all her might with her fist, he walks away unharmed, when a man hits a woman that way, she gets her jaw broken and stitches in her face. They were both at fault but my sister carries the battle scars.
The 99.9% is how many times a stupid person will return to an abusive situation. I have watched these people, if they leave, it isn't long before they actually find another abuser. SOMETIMES they actually escape and stay clear of such crazies, they are not the norm, but the exceptions.
On your second point you are absolutly right, always call the police...It's an evil world out there. But if someone looks like they need help...how can you not try? Lois asked the woman if she was okay, and she said no. I would have tried to help too...but I agree...it was not the safest thing to do.
My ex wife attacked me twice. I am a firm believer that any woman dumb enough to hit a man deserves whatever happens to her. First time it happened I just walked out with her following me continuing to slug and hit on me. About half way to the parking lot she got all apologetic and bagged me to come back in the apartment. Once we got back inside she started in again. I grabbed by the shoulders and sat her on the floor and told her to crawl to the bedroom or else, which she did. That fight started because I have the nerve to ask her where she'd been when she came in a 9:30 on a Thursday night with the kid (hers) and when she blew up and said she was leaving I took her keys and told her she could do what she wanted but the truck nor the kid were going with her.
3 days later we were at my mom's and she pulled the same crap, except this time she was sober. I grabbed her by the throat, pinned her against the refrigerator and had my fist drawn back. I looked at my fist, looked at her and said "you ain't worth it B----" About that time my mom came screaming in. I figured I was going to get the lecture when mom grabbed the ex and slung her into a dinning room chair and proceeded to read her the riot act. ALRIGHT MOM!!! Should have left the woman right then and there. No more physical stuff though.
 
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