13 year old preteen daughter

sepulatian

sepulatian

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Originally Posted by alyssia
http:///forum/post/2900440
Well now she's got herself grounded. Yesterday she was told to clean her room, told us she did, then when I went to check it, it was a mess. Granted it was better than before, but still a mess. She rolls her eyes and says "I didn't get it finished, I'll just do it tomorrow after school." No, you will do it NOW, at which point I hear "Why do I have to clean my room anyway, it's MY room" So of course then I had to remind her that it's MY house, and I don't have to let her live in it.

My son tries that one all of the time. It doesn't fly well with me either.
 
scotts

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Originally Posted by alyssia
http:///forum/post/2900440
Well now she's got herself grounded. Yesterday she was told to clean her room, told us she did, then when I went to check it, it was a mess. Granted it was better than before, but still a mess. She rolls her eyes and says "I didn't get it finished, I'll just do it tomorrow after school." No, you will do it NOW, at which point I hear "Why do I have to clean my room anyway, it's MY room" So of course then I had to remind her that it's MY house, and I don't have to let her live in it.

I have heard the exact same thing.
Of course now that she is grounded you are stuck with a grumpy, moody teenager in the house.
 
alyssia

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Originally Posted by Scotts
http:///forum/post/2900484
I have heard the exact same thing.
Of course now that she is grounded you are stuck with a grumpy, moody teenager in the house.

Yes, but she will stay in her room and pout most of the time.
 
mimzy

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hahahahahaha "grounded." that never worked with me. I WANTED to be alone in my room most of the time ANYHOW.
 
alyssia

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Originally Posted by Mimzy
http:///forum/post/2900578
hahahahahaha "grounded." that never worked with me. I WANTED to be alone in my room most of the time ANYHOW.

If I had to be home I wanted to be in my room alone too, but my daughter can't stand not having her ipod, DS, or not being allowed to watch TV, and she can't have any of those when she's grounded.
 
scotts

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Originally Posted by alyssia
http:///forum/post/2900604
If I had to be home I wanted to be in my room alone too, but my daughter can't stand not having her ipod, DS, or not being allowed to watch TV, and she can't have any of those when she's grounded.
Oh that is your definition of grounded. We did that with our daughter about a month ago and it was actually nice. She hung out with us and was not in a pi$$y mood all week. We also told her that exactly when she could have her stuff back. Friday at 6:00. She could watch TV with us though. We did take her phone away, does your daughter have her own phone. I am talking cell phone here.
Mimzy, kids are great until they are about 5. Then it is all down hill from there.
 
alyssia

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Originally Posted by Scotts
http:///forum/post/2900625
Oh that is your definition of grounded. We did that with our daughter about a month ago and it was actually nice. She hung out with us and was not in a pi$$y mood all week. We also told her that exactly when she could have her stuff back. Friday at 6:00. She could watch TV with us though. We did take her phone away, does your daughter have her own phone. I am talking cell phone here.
Mimzy, kids are great until they are about 5. Then it is all down hill from there.

Yes, it is okay until about age 5 (except for the sleepless nights).
Then it's like My God, what have I done?!?!

No cell phone yet. But our definition of grounded is no TV, phone, friends, computer, DS, wii, or ipod. No nothing basically.
And they deserve it!
 
alix2.0

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Originally Posted by Mimzy
http:///forum/post/2900578
hahahahahaha "grounded." that never worked with me. I WANTED to be alone in my room most of the time ANYHOW.

yeah, me too. but i havent been "grounded" since i was probably around eight.
 
sepulatian

sepulatian

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Originally Posted by Mimzy
http:///forum/post/2900610
so... do people actually ENJOY their children? like... ever?
Sure, sometimes ...

I usually do my son's punishments according to the crime. For example, he was caught with his phone in class then gave the teacher an attitude so I took it for a week. The first freedom that I take is hanging out with his friends though. He likes to do that for an hour or so each day after school and REALLY hates when he can't, so naturally that is the first to go.
 
slf125

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I've never been grounded. Not once and I pormise, I deserved many times. But no, my parents were lucky, I was one of those losers who cared about what their parents thought. Guilt went for a mile.
 
alyssia

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Originally Posted by SLF125
http:///forum/post/2900724
I've never been grounded. Not once and I pormise, I deserved many times. But no, my parents were lucky, I was one of those losers who cared about what their parents thought. Guilt went for a mile.
She did used to care about what we thought until about 6 months ago
 
mimzy

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Originally Posted by SLF125
http:///forum/post/2900724
I've never been grounded. Not once and I pormise, I deserved many times. But no, my parents were lucky, I was one of those losers who cared about what their parents thought. Guilt went for a mile.
yeah that was me too. but my parents had a secret weapon on their side.... JEWISH guilt. ::dies::
omg. i will never live down how long it took my poor Mother to give birth to me.
 
alyssia

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Originally Posted by Mimzy
http:///forum/post/2900992
yeah that was me too. but my parents had a secret weapon on their side.... JEWISH guilt. ::dies::
omg. i will never live down how long it took my poor Mother to give birth to me.

Oooooooo that's a good one!
 
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OK this was all funny when i read it the first day it posted....but now!!!!!!
I have a 4 year old girl at home that does all this now. Everything that you all have said she does. I use the BIG paint sticks at lowes to whoop her when she doesn't mind but i don't know that it is getting through. I am thinking of calling nanny 911
I wish it where a joke but really i think about it. She came from a broken relationship untill i can into the picture when she was 1 and a half. she called everyone that was male daddy; that was hard for me at first till now she only calls it to me. her "real" father left her mom at the delivery table. good time to decide your not ready hu? Anyway we have had a real time getting het to mind and have done time out, taking things a way, and whoopings but they all seem to go nowhere?
i can't think of what it will be when she gets to tennager years.... drugs, ---, and sneeking out
 
t316

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Originally Posted by alyssia
http:///forum/post/2900643
Yes, it is okay until about age 5 (except for the sleepless nights).
Then it's like My God, what have I done?!?!

No cell phone yet. But our definition of grounded is no TV, phone, friends, computer, DS, wii, or ipod. No nothing basically.
And they deserve it!

You must have read my thread on my 13 yr old... This is exactly how we do it. But they get used to it, having "nothing" that is. I like Scotts idea of allowing them to watch TV "with us". This not only limits what they can watch, but probably forces a little family conversation.
 
kspops

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It sounds like a nice time, until I look around and see my wife, and 11 year old daughter getting into the "you don't love me" fights, Then throw in her older sister (with developmental problems) and now you have a powder keg. All i can say is thank god for Kayak Fishing here in the Tampa area
 
scotts

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Originally Posted by T316
http:///forum/post/2901168
You must have read my thread on my 13 yr old... This is exactly how we do it. But they get used to it, having "nothing" that is. I like Scotts idea of allowing them to watch TV "with us". This not only limits what they can watch, but probably forces a little family conversation.
Yeah that week was actually nice. Then she got her stuff back and it was back into the blackhole for her.
Originally Posted by alyssia
http:///forum/post/2901177
I never got used to it. Having nothing that is.
Wait, I mean I was a perfect child.

Kelli you are cool, but don't you remember your parents saying "I hope you get a kid just like you"
 
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