I need to vent.....

meowzer

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Originally Posted by BTLDreef http:///forum/thread/380443/i-need-to-vent/20#post_3313509
If I were to leave the Tri-State area, my salary would literally be cut by 2/3. Unfortunatly, I'm stuck here. Both my family and my husband's are also all on Long Island, so we'll never move..... We just go on vacation a lot. Honstly, I don't know if I'd want my kids to get an education in many other states either, LI has some of the best public schools in the nation, and I do not believe in private school.
You do realize your living expenses would be too..........And as far as eductaion...sometimes the smaller places actually have more to offer.....they have more one on one...and you are NEVER lost in a crowd
 
When I cam to OK....my income dropped in 1/2 BUT my living expenses dropped by more then 2/3rds....so I kinda did ok
 
btldreef

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I know that my living expenses would be cut in half, but doing the math, it just would not work. I probably wouldn't even be able to find a job outside of a major area. I love Long Island, I just hate the 5 boroughs of NYC, that's a nightmare. Anywhere north of Westchester is too "hick" for me, LOL. As for education, Long Island is where it's at, as far as I'm concerned. We don't have overcrowded schools like the rest of the state does. LI is really like it's own state, stuck in the hell that is NY.
 
I just don't think that I would be able to live in the middle of nowhere, especially when all our family is here. Even when I visit Grandma in FL, she lives an hour outside of Orlando and that's too quiet for me. Don't get me wrong, I love where I live, and it's not near the city, but it's not rural either.
 
 
meowzer

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BTLD...It was a LARGE adjustment......believe me....This kind of move would NOT be for everybody...LOL....I am now use to the "country" and the peace of it.....OH I still miss some stuff, but my family is also NUTS, so they are not one of the things I miss HAHA
 
stdreb27

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Originally Posted by BTLDreef http:///forum/thread/380443/i-need-to-vent/20#post_3313509
I do not believe in private school.
You know private schools do exist... You can deny that all you want...
 
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Originally Posted by meowzer http:///forum/thread/380443/i-need-to-vent/40#post_3313519
BTLD...It was a LARGE adjustment......believe me....This kind of move would NOT be for everybody...LOL....I am now use to the "country" and the peace of it.....OH I still miss some stuff, but my family is also NUTS, so they are not one of the things I miss HAHA
The country is where it is at. I don't think I could ever really like living in a major metropolitan area. Houston is pretty bad, at least we could drive an hour and be out in the boonies.
 
 
reefraff

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I moved from the big city, about a 2/3rd's pay cut initially but it was worth it. Back in the city now but it's outside Denver instead of LA. There isn't enough money to get me back to LA, family or not.
 
btldreef

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Originally Posted by stdreb27 http:///forum/thread/380443/i-need-to-vent/40#post_3313525
You know private schools do exist... You can deny that all you want...
LOL
 
The country is where it is at. I don't think I could ever really like living in a major metropolitan area. Houston is pretty bad, at least we could drive an hour and be out in the boonies.
 
I'm about an hour and a half outside of Manhattan. I live on the east end of Long Island. If you've never been here, it's very hard to explain. It is suburban, but in a different way than I have seen most other sublets of major cities. California is the only other place I know that is like this, and I could never convince my husband to move across the country, just would not happen. I love where I live, I just hate the city, and unfortunately I have to go into Manhattan a lot. I can't do the country thing, it's just not me. On top of that, I'm a musician and a music therapist, I need to be near an area where people have money to pay for my services and outside of a metropolitan area, that really does not exist.
 
 
stdreb27

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Originally Posted by BTLDreef http:///forum/thread/380443/i-need-to-vent/40#post_3313540
 
I'm about an hour and a half outside of Manhattan. I live on the east end of Long Island. If you've never been here, it's very hard to explain. It is suburban, but in a different way than I have seen most other sublets of major cities. California is the only other place I know that is like this, and I could never convince my husband to move across the country, just would not happen. I love where I live, I just hate the city, and unfortunately I have to go into Manhattan a lot. I can't do the country thing, it's just not me. On top of that, I'm a musician and a music therapist, I need to be near an area where people have money to pay for my services and outside of a metropolitan area, that really does not exist.
 
yeah, you might be trapped, I know my friend's who do that professionally, the $$ is just not there, 40-50k max. If you're lucky enough to get into a school who's district is pretty wealthy. And you've been there a while.
 
(sweet I was hoping you've catch my joke, and not start some big argument about private schools)
 
stdreb27

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Music theorists use music to teach basic functionality. Or teaches music to promote dexterity and basic functionality. If you can move your fingers to play a recorder it might help you hold your tooth brush... I know my friends mainly deal with autistic kids. But there are a buncha other ways it helps too.
 
btldreef

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Well here in Suffolk County, we have an amazing Early Intervention program for young children with special needs. People actually move to this county from other areas in the state and from out of state for the program we have here, which is one of the reason I'm sort of trapped here due to my occupation. Music Therapy is very specialized, especially when it comes to working with young children. The oldest child I treat is 3 1/2.
 
Occupational therapy is basically teaching how to use fine motor skills, for writing, eating, etc. Music Therapy incorporates music, whether it be through listening or actually playing an instrument to work on these skills even more. For example: I had a child that I recently treated who did not walk and could not use his hands independently (reciprical motion). If the left hand reached for something, so did the right. By playing drum patterns with hands together, and then independently, he learned to play with things one hand at a time.
 
Music therapy can also be used for kids with sensory issues. A lot of autistic children that I treat have issues with loud noises are certain pitched sounds (whether it be high or low pitched). It can be used just to get a child to start moving altogether. I've had kids that don't move at all until music and dance is introduced in their lives. I've bombarded children with sounds to get them over their fear of crowded rooms so that their parents can more peacefully enjoy a meal in a restaurant. I am usually on a team where music therapy is brought in as an addition to whatever therapy the child is already receiving. I do a lot with physical therapists to help get a child to move. Since I'm dual certified in music and occupational therapy, I do a lot of teaming myself.
 
 
monsinour

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There are other metropolitan areas that you could go to with much better people in them than NYC. The regents diploma that NY offers is junk once you get outside the state borders. And as far as the education system here in NY, let me tell you what I saw the past 2 years (effectively the 2 years my daughter has gone to school here in ny.)
 
The school district high school just got new stadium turf put in for the football field. These things are not cheap as the one put in at Ohio state was $875,000. Now I am sure that Schenectady schools didnt spent that much for the turf, but I am sure it was atleast half. That following summer they announced budget cuts and a proposed tax hike. I wonder what they had to pay for? My wife and I researched the elemntary schools in our area and purchased the house we have now for the specific reason of sending our kids to the elementary school that my daughter goes to. Before she started kindergarten, the school district rezoned the lines and wanted to send our daughter to a different school. the research we did rated the schools on a 1 to 10 basis. the school the district wanted to send our kids to rated a 2 on the national scale. We fought hard and long with the superintendant of the schools and he allowed us to send our kids to the original school. We fought long and hard to send our kids to a school rated at 3 i believe. No where near the quality of schools i went to as a kid nor my wife. But we are poor, broke, and stuck in this house for now. We both agree that we need to move to a better place, but cant due to the economy. The schools here in NY suck, no offense, and I am more and more pissed off that my kids were born here in NY as opposed to Ohio. I do not for a second regret the decision to marry my wife as she is such an awesome person. I do regret the move to NY and wish I could go back in time and change that decision.
 
North of westchester is "hicksville"? Girl, are you serious? You realize that you just changed the color of my neck, right? LOL
 
btldreef

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Originally Posted by Monsinour http:///forum/thread/380443/i-need-to-vent/40#post_3313795
There are other metropolitan areas that you could go to with much better people in them than NYC. The regents diploma that NY offers is junk once you get outside the state borders. And as far as the education system here in NY, let me tell you what I saw the past 2 years (effectively the 2 years my daughter has gone to school here in ny.)
 
The school district high school just got new stadium turf put in for the football field. These things are not cheap as the one put in at Ohio state was $875,000. Now I am sure that Schenectady schools didnt spent that much for the turf, but I am sure it was atleast half. That following summer they announced budget cuts and a proposed tax hike. I wonder what they had to pay for? My wife and I researched the elemntary schools in our area and purchased the house we have now for the specific reason of sending our kids to the elementary school that my daughter goes to. Before she started kindergarten, the school district rezoned the lines and wanted to send our daughter to a different school. the research we did rated the schools on a 1 to 10 basis. the school the district wanted to send our kids to rated a 2 on the national scale. We fought hard and long with the superintendant of the schools and he allowed us to send our kids to the original school. We fought long and hard to send our kids to a school rated at 3 i believe. No where near the quality of schools i went to as a kid nor my wife. But we are poor, broke, and stuck in this house for now. We both agree that we need to move to a better place, but cant due to the economy. The schools here in NY suck, no offense, and I am more and more pissed off that my kids were born here in NY as opposed to Ohio. I do not for a second regret the decision to marry my wife as she is such an awesome person. I do regret the move to NY and wish I could go back in time and change that decision.
 
North of westchester is "hicksville"? Girl, are you serious? You realize that you just changed the color of my neck, right? LOL
LOL, to me, north of WestChester is too rural. I have a summer house outside of Kingston and even that is too rural for me. I actually know where you live, I've been up there, have friends there. Every time I visit them, I ask them how they can live there. It's just too rural for me. I can't take it, LOL.
 
Like I said, Long Island is NOT like the rest of NY. I hate the rest of NY, I LOVE Long Island. Long Island schools are what keeps NY education having a good rating. I have my teaching degree, and I've been offered a pretty penny to teach in other states simply because I'm from Long Island. I just hate teaching, the degree came with my Music Therapy program, we all had to double major in therapy and education. Believe me, there are things here that I hate (like NYC) but I'm stuck here. No other metropolitan area on the east coast will offer me what I have here. Nowhere else can I get the same type of job. If I never had to step foot in NYC again, I'd be the happiest girl alive, but unfortunately, that's not really an option. I view Long Island as more like California than the rest of New York.
 
monsinour

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your definition of rural and my definition of rural do not coincide. Have you even tried looking into the Charlotte area? North Carolia is mostly populated with northerners who have moved down there so there isnt soo much the redneck problems you might think. Charlotte is a big business town so there are plenty of people with money there too. But if you are stuck in NY, then you are stuck.
 
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