Originally Posted by
Speg
Actually both of you that gave advice gave very good advice.
I currently found a girl that I used to know from high school and we recently started hanging out. I am not attracted to her even though she is a cute girl... and amazingly enough I can talk to her without being shy one bit.. and thats a big deal for me seeing as how im always shy. She is actually shy around me though because she is very attracted to me... isnt that sad? I dont want her but she wants me.... so sad. Either way I feel this will help boost my confidence when I do find a girl I like......... at least maybe it will
Also to the other person that said I need to accept myself and be comfortable with me before anything else also gave great advice. I've been trying to do that... I am very self conscious about my looks. My exgirlfriend told me I was cute and whatever.. but she was probably only being nice because she was stuck with me for so long! Anyways she coulda been trying to be nice right? When she looked funny i'd still tell her how beautiful she was
lol... dang i'm bad.. anyways! I am currently working on getting to know 'me' and bettering myself physically and mentally.. so... right now i'm not wanting a girlfriend.. but when the time comes hopefully i'll be more comfortable with myself and things will alllllllllllllll work out.
You want a pic fo me? I have a pic I took a few weeks ago that I keep on myspace.com so here it is.
ps: thanks a lot for the tips - it's greatly appreciated.
Speg. Darling. "Cute" is not the word. But I'm married, so I can't say the right one
Besides, relying on external validation isn't healthy. YOU have to be comfortable in your own skin. Well, as much as humanely possible. And when you figure out how to do so - please...let me know!
I think we ALL could use some help in this department, so don't feel alone
Glad u've got a female friend - and glad it's helping. Also, VERY pleased to hear you haven't put yourself back on the market yet - Now's your chance to reacquaint yourself with the most important person in your life - you! You're off to a great start. Here's to new beginings and lots of growth! :jumping: