reefraff
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Originally Posted by bionicarm http:///t/392941/can-we-get-out-of-the-middle-east-plez/60#post_3493443
Those incidents are a rarity. Of course parents are responsible for their children. The "problem children" are those that come from lower-income or single parent families. These are the kids you see running around the streets at 2AM on a school night. The single parents have little control when they are concentrating working low-paying jobs and trying to keep food on the table. Now not all single parents have problems. Those with middle-to-high incomes have a history of having very responsible and successful klids. It depends on the environment they were raised. My younger daughter has a friend who is 17 that lost her mother to cancer two years ago. The father disappeared, and this girl took control of all the finaces, including maintaining the home she's lived in for the last 15 years. The only family she has locally is her 22 year old sister. For about a year, she was living in her house alone, with a state-approved guardian helping her with finances. She works a part time job at Baskin Robbins, and still takes AP courses and maintains a straight-A average in school. The moral of the story is not all kids have to have the support of their parents. It's the support of friends, the community, and in this girl's case, her teachers that encouraged and inspired her to fight through the adversities and make something successful out of her life.
Bigger than the inner city single parent issue is the inner city culture that causes problems. A lot of two parent households there with problem kids too. For whatever reason their parents don't want to go against the tide and make their kid toe the line. We had it pretty easy where we raised our kid because there were 3 high schools in town. One was more upscale, one was in the university area and quite frankly full of freaks and one was more rural and had a lot of cowboy wannabes. Our kid went to the school with the wannabes. Most of the problem kids were in the university area but even there the problems were a drip compared to what you see in big metro areas, that is why I moved to Montana in the first place.
Originally Posted by bionicarm http:///t/392941/can-we-get-out-of-the-middle-east-plez/60#post_3493443
Those incidents are a rarity. Of course parents are responsible for their children. The "problem children" are those that come from lower-income or single parent families. These are the kids you see running around the streets at 2AM on a school night. The single parents have little control when they are concentrating working low-paying jobs and trying to keep food on the table. Now not all single parents have problems. Those with middle-to-high incomes have a history of having very responsible and successful klids. It depends on the environment they were raised. My younger daughter has a friend who is 17 that lost her mother to cancer two years ago. The father disappeared, and this girl took control of all the finaces, including maintaining the home she's lived in for the last 15 years. The only family she has locally is her 22 year old sister. For about a year, she was living in her house alone, with a state-approved guardian helping her with finances. She works a part time job at Baskin Robbins, and still takes AP courses and maintains a straight-A average in school. The moral of the story is not all kids have to have the support of their parents. It's the support of friends, the community, and in this girl's case, her teachers that encouraged and inspired her to fight through the adversities and make something successful out of her life.
Bigger than the inner city single parent issue is the inner city culture that causes problems. A lot of two parent households there with problem kids too. For whatever reason their parents don't want to go against the tide and make their kid toe the line. We had it pretty easy where we raised our kid because there were 3 high schools in town. One was more upscale, one was in the university area and quite frankly full of freaks and one was more rural and had a lot of cowboy wannabes. Our kid went to the school with the wannabes. Most of the problem kids were in the university area but even there the problems were a drip compared to what you see in big metro areas, that is why I moved to Montana in the first place.