My fiance...

meowzer

Moderator
What I screen for in a man today before I will even date:
I say ...is he a >
Alcoholic
Drug addict
gay
sick
lazy
uneducated
in debt beyond ability ot support themselves
Abusive (verbal / physical)
pedophile
X wife w/kids to support
under my own age
FLOWER...Don't move to Oklahoma....LOL....I think you just described 80% of the men here....
I have one for you
They have to have all their teeth...LOL
 

flower

Well-Known Member
Originally Posted by meowzer
http:///forum/post/3041137
FLOWER...Don't move to Oklahoma....LOL....I think you just described 80% of the men here....
I have one for you
They have to have all their teeth...LOL
I have to really laugh at that one. Dan lost every tooth in his head just before the divorce. He has no insurance now without me and can't buy teeth!

Like I said Mr. perfect does not exist. I aint looking for anybody, I already know whats out there. I refuse to become gay at my age
 

meowzer

Moderator
Originally Posted by Flower
http:///forum/post/3041140
I have to really laugh at that one. Dan lost every tooth in his head just before the divorce. He has no insurance now without me and can't buy teeth!

DAN
...MY first (abusive) husband was Dan...hes losing his teeth and hair..lol..but that's what drugs and alcohol will do to you....
My second (good) husbands name is Dan too....LOL...
 

flower

Well-Known Member
Originally Posted by meowzer
http:///forum/post/3041144
DAN
...MY first (abusive) husband was Dan...hes losing his teeth and hair..lol..but that's what drugs and alcohol will do to you....
My second (good) husbands name is Dan too....LOL...
Were you who he was seeing!
I forgot to add a cheater to my list!
Was your Dan real skinny with a pot belly?
 

meowzer

Moderator
Originally Posted by Flower
http:///forum/post/3041140
I have to really laugh at that one. Dan lost every tooth in his head just before the divorce. He has no insurance now without me and can't buy teeth!

Like I said Mr. perfect does not exist. I aint looking for anybody, I already know whats out there. I refuse to become gay at my age
You must have added that second part...LOL...I'd become a nun first
 

oscardeuce

Active Member
Originally Posted by kikithemermaid
http:///forum/post/3040604
But he told me he'd never hurt me. I mean, he screams at me a lot but he hasn't physically hurt me.
That's how it starts, but the violence almost always escalates. He obviously does not want help or to change. Few beat his addiction. Many die from it and take others with them. My mom is one, dead at 55 from alcohol.
My advice, sit down with his family. Talk it out and give him the choice. The booze or you. If he tries to clean up his act he needs to know he is on probation.
You need to protect yourself. Many battered women speak as you do, he loves me even though he yells at me or hits me.
If you are on meds, then someone is prescribing hem. Seek them out and they can help you through this.
It's his choice, a happy life with you or the booze.
That easy, yet that hard
God Speed!
 

pezenfuego

Active Member
Originally Posted by Flower
http:///forum/post/3041140
I have to really laugh at that one. Dan lost every tooth in his head just before the divorce. He has no insurance now without me and can't buy teeth!

Like I said Mr. perfect does not exist. I aint looking for anybody, I already know whats out there. I refuse to become gay at my age
Mr. Perfect does exist. Unfortunately he's gay.
 

flower

Well-Known Member
Originally Posted by meowzer
http:///forum/post/3041150
HECK NO!!!!!!...Never going down the drunk druggie road again
I have to thank you for the good laugh, I really needed that. I really am not a man hater. I just like them better as a friend and not someone for me.
I had it good for 15 years and found out how sweet life is without the drugs and alcohol. The first 12 had me running scared, no redo for me thank you!
So now I am alone.
 

meowzer

Moderator
Originally Posted by Flower
http:///forum/post/3041157
I have to thank you for the good laugh, I really needed that. I really am not a man hater. I just like them better as a friend and not someone for me.
I had it good for 15 years and found out how sweet life is without the drugs and alcohol. The first 12 had me running scared, no redo for me thank you!
So now I am alone.
Glad I could help
I always figure the right person will come when you are not expecting it....
 

flower

Well-Known Member
Originally Posted by meowzer
http:///forum/post/3041160
Glad I could help
I always figure the right person will come when you are not expecting it....
If I spend the rest of my life on this forum, I think I will be safe.
I'm off to work have a good night!
 

sepulatian

Moderator
Originally Posted by meowzer http:///forum/post/3040921
Some people are so rude...this is a 21 year old young woman who feels she can not go to her family....she has NO hard life experiences (YET) and unless you have lived through them...you can not imagine what it is like....You always want to see the bright side of things...I know that from experience also..sad though...for a lot of people there is no bright side......
This experience is going to hurt her a lot more than him cause he is either drunk or too stoned to care....she has to deal with the situation wide eyed and sober....
KIKI...I wish you all the best...be strong, and think of yourself first...go to your family...that's what they are there for...I wish I had done that way back when....
Darling read the rest...
Originally Posted by EL GUAPO http:///forum/post/3040957
Ok I'm not trying to be a jerk I am just noticing a bit of a pattern here kiki. I think you might want to talk to somebody about the things going on in your life . Somebody more in tune with helping people than the experts on an internet forum . You either have really bad luck or you need to talk to your Dr. I would guess its a little of both . Just in the past year some of the things you have brought up are more than a little alarming .
to go back 8 months ago to a locked thread .
"Long story short, my boyfriend and I went to Mexico last month for our three year anniversary and we broke up while we were there. So I (for some reason, I had to) moved out after we got home and moved in with another college student, Jade, who's around my age. She's really nice. Except...last week we got another room mate who is here from Sweden studying...she's older than us, 28. She's really really loud. Eats our food. Sings obnoxiously all the time, even at night. I could get over that.
....but get this.
SHE WALKS AROUND NA--ED . All the time. I mean, all the time. Sunbathing in the front yard. Cooking in the kitchen (isn't that a health hazard?!), doing the laundry, on the beach, you name it. She only puts on clothes for school.
My ex thinks it's hilarious, free p--n he calls it. But seriously, what do I do? Jade and I have no idea how to bring this up.
"
I don't know you kiki but I can tell there is more going on than what your saying . Please please talk to somebody about the things going on around you .
Originally Posted by ruaround
http:///forum/post/3041098
https://forums.saltwaterfish.com/t/335299/getting-to-know-your-fellow-hobbyist/20 last post on page 2...
Kiki I sincerely hope that you are alright and I hope that life gets better for you. Hun you have had a string of misfortue that even GOD could not have predicted. I hope things work out for you in the future.
 

tangman99

Active Member
Kiki,
I won't begin to tell you the women I have seen in your position and what happens to them. You are already showing the signs of abuse. You have no self esteem and he has already convinced you that you can not do better than him. You are the classic abused and manipulated individual. Psychological abuse is just as bad or worse than physical abuse. The good news is you are young, pretty and more important you have not married him and most important do not have any kids with him.
Girl, you don't have a problem. You just need to open your eyes, listen to what every person on this board is telling you and do what you know needs to be done. Here is something that helps. Step outside of the situation and imagine you are much older and have a daughter your age that has just come to you with the exact situation you are telling us. You know what you would tell her to do and you need to have the courage to do the same thing yourself.
Go to your family and tell them what is going on in your life. They are your family and when everyone turns their back on you, they will be there. You owe them to tell them the truth. Forget men right now and fix yourself. Whether you realize it or not, you have been damaged from this relationship and it has absolutely nothing to do with any medical conditions you have. Unless you take the time to realize who you are and build up some self confidence and self esteem, you will repeat this mistake over and over.
I'm not trying to be inconsiderate, but honest with you.
Good luck to you and get your self together. You have a long life ahead of you. Make it a happy one. It's all in your hands.
 

meowzer

Moderator
Originally Posted by sepulatian
http:///forum/post/3041339
Darling read the rest...
Kiki I sincerely hope that you are alright and I hope that life gets better for you. Hun you have had a string of misfortue that even GOD could not have predicted. I hope things work out for you in the future.
YUP...Sep...I saw that post later on...
 
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kikithemermaid

Guest
I asked Sep to close this because my fiance is going to join the forum because he has tank questions and I don't want him to see it. I really appreciate most people's advice. I'm really grateful to everyone here, and will definitely look at this thread because I am considering leaving him.
Thanks,
Courtney
 

el guapo

Active Member
Kiki ,
You need to seriously stop this . You need to get help . This is not about being abused its about you getting real help for your real problems . It's not ok to come here and get everybody worked up over this type of thing . You have admitted to being schizophrenic as well as bi-polar , Two very serious mental issues . This combined with the list of things that have happened to you is just a cry for help . Your stories have clashed and are far fetched . Please go and talk to a DR .
To everybody else .... Stop feeding into this . She needs to address the real problem here . Not all these other bad things that are supposedly happening to her .
 
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kikithemermaid

Guest
They're far-fetched? EXCUSE ME? I came on here for support and got it! I am considering leaving!
And supposedly?
I'm adding you to my block list.
 

el guapo

Active Member
Kiki if I am the reason you leave then sorry . But your making this all up . Even your excuse for wanting SEP to close the thread is boarder line . Because all of a suden your fience is wanting to get involved on the boards and you don't want him to see it ?
Seriously kiki go and talk to a DR . I m sure your adding me to your blocked list . I know the truth and thats something you can face . You'll leave only because your imaginary world is crumbling around you . I have seen it before around here . People make up such tall tales then get called out nd they disaper .
 

aquaknight

Active Member
Kiki, you don't owe anyone anything, but if you maybe explain some of the quoted posts, it really would help a ton, as they really seem to not coincide. People here are some of the most caring they are. We just want to make sure we're giving the right help.
 
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